I "sneak out" to have hot pot today for lunch with my bosses, Steve and Choi, for a 3-hr lunch. It was good. I've been sick for the pass three days and couldn't eat much since I had no appetite whatsoever. You know how you feel like the tasteless-ness on the tongue when you have the nose-running cold. Anyway, so I eat so much today for regain the 5 lbs that I lost due to the cold.
We run into the conversation of how to raise Nicolas when he gets into college in the future. First of all, I am not quite sure if my son will go to college. Don't get me wrong, it's not that I won't send him to college. Just that I am not certain what the world will become in 2029 (18 years later if I compute corretly; so correct me if I am wrong, can't do math after 3 hrs of hot-pot-ing). So many things have changed in the pass that the trend of going to college seem vague. Second, whatever we decide now will be hard to put into actions in reality. I cannot put every theory into action. Of course, having a plan is very important. Therefore, the plan (mine is different from Steve's) is I will only be responsible for Nicolas until he reaches 18 years old. After that, he will be on his own. I am not saying that I will kick him out of the house, but he will have to pay for his own expenses like phone bill, transportation, his own meals, and his tuition expenses.
On the other hand, Steve said that it depends. If Nicolas happens to be a really "good" student, and he will continue his education to a PhD level, and he becomes a researcher, then he will keep on paying for him. My first reaction was, Nicolas? My Nicolas? He will not be a researcher for sure. (Let's check that out in 2029). In addition, I will not let that happen. If he pursuits higher education, he will still has to pay for himself. We cannot assume we can take care of him forever, he has to somehow turn his "interests" into a living, if not, then he will face a dilema of giving it up. Life is harsh, we'll not be around forever!
Some will say that I won't be as "cold-blooded" because Nicolas cannot be as independent as I was. "Cold-blooded " or not, I think it's the best for him. The major problems for the parents raising the next generation is spoiling them as a way to compensate for the time they cannot be with them. The result of that is the next generation can never make a living. What if one day (in theory, it will never happen) that all parents are gone? The supporters will one day be gone and who's gonna support them? Value is the key. They need to understand the values of live. Everybody's standard is different, but I will make sure my boy understand the important value of life is being independent and be able to make a living when Steve and I are gone.
It is a either light nor heavy topic, but hopefully, in 2029 (again correct me if I am wrong) I will be able to look back at my blog today and know what I have said TODAY.
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